EMOTIONAL CONFLICT

There’s no such thing as being torn between two (or more) people. Its either you love and want to be with a person or you don’t. Sure, every now and then, the situation presents its self, where it appears as though you have the same amount of feelings for two (or more) significant figures in your life, like you can’t do without both of them. Well, ofcourse you can’t do without them, they both add so much value to your life. What you can do however, is to love only one of your numerous choices. You have to. If you’re an honest person, then you honestly want to be committed to “only” one person. That you appear to be torn between so many choices is only a subconscious battle in your mind that arises because of a blurred truth.

Afterall, if the truth were so visible, the fight won’t be there in the first place. But after all has been said and done, after the battle must have been well and fairly fought, a winner always emerges. You can’t love both “equally”. If you carefully put all the pieces of the puzzle together, one piece after the other, you’d realize there’s just one. Just one that, by your assessment, can give you the happy, fulfilled future you’ve always wanted.

            The key to doing this and getting optimum result is to keep an open mind. Consider it your personal research work, with your mind as unbiased as possible. With your new found open-mindedness, carefully scrutinize every one of your criteria in a partner, one after the other. Gather as much evidence and take as much time as you need. Need I remind you that patience is a virtue, weigh the pros and the cons diligently, no point rushing into unhappiness. Amongst others, consider the connection, the spark, as these are most needed in the long run.

            With every carefully scrutinized personal criterion, the visible truth will slowly emerge until you are done. With an unbiased mind, the winner may be not always be who you hoped for. It may be that choice you never completely gave a chance, whom you always compared with a standard or just dismissed outrightly. On the other hand, it may be the one you’ve always figured it’ll be. The one who stirred up butterflies in your tummy from the get-go. Whichever the case, be sure to always pick a future of happiness over a today of happiness. As far as your heart skips a beat when things are intense between you both, you’re definitely on the right track.